Life’s battles don’t always go, to the stronger or faster man,

But sooner or later, the man who wins is the man who thinks he can!

Many, many years back I learned something I will never forget. I learnt you can more or less get what you want from life, if you can visualise yourself getting it, and work towards that vision. If you want a Mercedes-Benz, and can hold a picture of you driving in that car and even see it parked in your garage, then there is a very real possibility of you getting it, depending on how vivid you make the picture and plan in your mind.

Today’s column is addressed more to youngsters than older folk: It starts with old people living quite comfortably in retirement receiving a letter from a son or daughter settled abroad, inviting them over for a holiday. “A holiday!” They both shout and start packing, though at the back of their heads they wonder if their locked home will be safe, who will look after their dogs or cats, their plants, and that most certainly they are going to miss their friends and maybe evenings at the club.

A procession by a majority community into a minority neighbourhood, stone pelting by foolish residents, and the next day bulldozer retaliation by authorities, demolishing shops on the same street with the excuse of encroachments, spoiled the otherwise peaceful consecration of the Ram Mandir. 

Tit for tat, right? But when the tit is done by an eighty percent majority, it could have been done in a wiser way.

On this Republic Day, as we salute and celebrate the making of the Constitution of India, I remember the 2001 earthquake, in Ahmedabad, Gujarat, where many tall buildings fell, some of them face down like a pack of cards.

The reason for the fall? Weak foundations!

This happened many years ago.

The old lady sat in the room sobbing.

The old man, her husband, a retired army major, stared straight ahead.

They had just lost their son in a motor- bike accident.

I sat holding her hand, there was nothing I could say; the grief was intense, unbearable.