While running my dad's interior designing firm many years ago, I was called to the house of a potential customer who wanted to do up his place. I sat with a design book in hand and waited to begin my presentation about the type of interior we could design for him.

I never got started!

There was a knock on my door. Outside I found two busy looking individuals, “We are engineers, we’ve come to do a structural audit of your flat sir!” said one of them.

“That’s wonderful!” I said, “Please check all the beams and pillars and see whether these old walls are capable of lasting a few more years.” I then watched as they both went to my bedroom and looked around, not at walls or ceiling but curiously at my books and other stuff lying around.

“Where’s your hammer?” I asked.

This is not about one woman shouting ‘rape’ but hundreds coming out and screaming of the atrocities by the Deva Gowda family!

Ever wondered where it started?

Well, not in the politician’s home or through his upbringing but in our collective, national feeling about women.

Even as we discussed the Karnataka rapes yesterday and how women are being made to look weak because of insecure men, begs the question, should women wait for men to become confident, before they can walk into spaces which traditionally men have occupied?

“We can’t wait anymore for our insecure men to become confident!” say some determined women, even as millions of their sisters, mothers, and daughters are afraid to step out.

A few years back many learned pundits tried to analyze and find out why Hillary Clinton lost the election when she stood against Trump. Just before the results, every exit poll, news channel and publication predicted she would win. But she lost!

I was in the US when two of her debates with Trump took place. What I saw was a lady with no passion. She was like a cold fish!